The conflict Introverts vs extroverts is as old as the hills. Extroverted people are deemed the most successful, energetic and simply the best possible kin, unlike those anti-social, selfish loners who does not want to talk and go out all the time. But having more time on our own and not socializing with many means that one have opportunity to develop as a person and their own interests and passions. Also, it is said that generally those “gifted” are most likely to be introverted. Can we say that either one is better?
On many occasions such as youth projects, quite often job interviews or other group admissions, the extrovertism is a trait that is very sought for. It is very logical – people who are easy-going will probably find their feet quickly and easily, which is preferable when building a team. We tend to value social skills more than any other personal qualities. Some people seem to omit the fact that in many cases people who are not so skilled with people are very creative and innovative, which is also very important for effectiveness.
You should not feel worse if you’d rather drink a cup of coffee and enjoy a good book than go partying.
As in most things people fall somewhere on the scale of two extremes – as it is with politics (left-wing – right-wing), or life attitudes (those who are always happy without a reason and those who are always dejected) – and very few are on the absolute edge. Nobody has problems with that as it is just normal for people to be different. But somehow in today’s society there is a pressure on being very sociable. We constantly talk, party and post pictures of it on social media. The more evidence of how successful our lives are, the better. Those who avoid overstimulating situations are in many cases excluded or have the label of nerd or weirdo.
Even so, let’s not forget that most influential people in history – artists, musicians and others – were introverts. Just thinking of VanGogh or Karl Darvin, and the list is so much longer. I believe we take this idea of Perfect Extrovert far too seriously and don’t even try to get to know the other side of the coin. Getting to know people and their own world of ideas and feelings is maybe not the most easy thing to do, but it may win you a very interesting friendship.